ADOPTION - OUR FIRST CHOICE!
Joe told me on our first official date at, Basi Italia, that his battle with cancer in
college had significantly decreased his chances of ever having biological
children*. He’ll tell you that I didn’t
bat an eyelash. If I’m being honest, I
wasn’t that girl who dreamed about being pregnant, but I HAVE always dreamed
about being a mom. As dinner continued,
Joe shared that his dad and aunt were both adopted. I also already knew that there are TONS of
kids here in the US and around the world in need of loving parents and
families. From that moment, we’ve always
considered adoption our first choice. Normal
first date conversation, right?!
If you know anything about Joe, you wouldn’t be shocked to
hear that he likes to explore ALL options before making a decision, regardless
of size or scope. [This is precisely why we still have a completely empty room on our
first floor. There are just so many desk
options to choose from… but I digress!] The decision to pursue adoption as our
first choice to start our family, was no exception. In June 2016, after months of
procrastinating and debate, we did finally meet with a reproductive health
specialist to discuss the option of IVF.
We left our visit well informed, but it still did not change our
decision to grow our family through adoption.
Joe and I are so incredibly fortunate that we didn’t come to the
decision to adopt through the heartbreak of failed fertility treatments. I feel a deep sense of gratitude that we were
able to begin this journey from a place of positivity. In a way, it almost feels simple.
As I have shared our story over the years, many people – yes,
close friends and family included - would respond back with “well you could
always try IVF or a sperm donor.” This advice
was often accompanied with a sympathetic look or tone. I am sure that these comments were well-
intended, but to me, adoption is, and will never be a backup plan. I totally understand that many people believe
that they can only fulfill their dreams to parent by having biological
children. Though I can’t describe why,
I’ve never felt that way. In my heart,
adoption feels no different.
At the end of the day, this journey will inevitably consist
of peaks and valleys and unexpected twists.
The one thing I am certain of is that I can’t wait to be a mom and snuggle
a sweet little baby in my arms!
*Happy to report that Joe has been cancer free for TEN YEARS!!!!
Thank you Jill & Joe for sharing your story. We are so excited to travel along on your journey to parenthood. Love you!!! ❤️❤️
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